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Overcoming the BULLY Within

bully.bull dogAs I look out my window in my new creative space in my new home, I can only see a cloudy, overcast sky.  Despite the melacholiness of the day, I am surrounded by the beauty of huge, old, historic trees and homes that remind me daily that there is always hope and there is always possibility in this life.

As I look at the green grass and plants that surround my home, I am also reminded of hard work and that feeling of accomplishment and pride that comes along with it.  There is something profoundly intrinsic in me that wants to accomplish so many things; to fulfill all these dreams and goals in my life.

For two decades I have pushed with all my might towards those goals and dreams, but they always seem just outside my reach.  My mind, my heart and my soul long to create, to accomplish, and to challenge my abilities … but … my body struggles to keep up.

It’s been twenty-two years that I have kept the faith that I will get better; that I will regain all that has been taken from me.  Most days, that faith and determination burns strong within me.

But there are times when reality boldly collides head first with that determination and tips the scales of faith and determination towards capitulation.

Capitulation is not even a word in my vocabulary and yet I find myself coming face to face with it often lately.  It would be so much easier to surrender; to give in; to let go.

Lately, thoughts tend to flood my mind that cause me to wonder if all this effort to fulfilling my heart’s desire is worth the effort, the struggle, the energy or the constant, crushing bullying of Myalgic Encephalomyelitis (ME).

It’s as if I have been living with a bully who refuses to let me win.  This bully appears to pleasure in keeping me off kilter, unsure of my future, my possibilities, and abilities.

This bully revels in creating a view of my future that is filled with the distractions of collapses, crashes, lack of energy, pain, confusion, frustration and grief.  It does its best to remind me that I am less because I cannot be more because this bully is in control my body.

Despite the bully’s loud voice, however, residing deep within me, is this small voice that reminds me that bullys can only win when and if I give up.  While it may control my body, it does not control my heart and soul.  It does not own me.

I am a women of determination.  A woman who will by the grace of God fulfill her destiny.  I will become well one day soon.  I will write those books I am called to pen.  I will become lean and physical again.  I will become active and involved again.  I will be the person that I am called to be.

While there may be times when this bully (ME) wins the race, it will not and cannot win the war because I have a passion, a tenacity, a determination that rages within me to win.

And win I shall …


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10 thoughts on “Overcoming the BULLY Within”

  1. Lillie Ammann says:

    Your courage and tenacity are inspiring, Dominique.
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    1. Dominique says:

      Thank you Lillie. You are one of the great blessing I have received from having a blog. :-)

  2. Carolyn says:

    Very well said, Dominique. You spur me to keep going x
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    1. Dominique says:

      Aww thanks Carolyn. I’m am trying really hard to get back to my writing on a regular basis. Crazy days! Ha Ha!

  3. says:

    So glad to see you are blogging again.
    We all deal somewhat differently with the limits imposed by ME. For many years I did as much as possible and inspite of illness accomplished a lot. Now that I am soon to be 67 I am finding the push/crash way of living is just not worth it and I am trying my best to have more compassion for this sick body…..hope for wonderful future still exists because of God’s promise of eternal life….it feels alright to surrender the physical battle….it brings peace to not struggle…maybe I finally will have learned patience and wisdom to know what I can change and what I cannot change. I respect your determination Dominique to keep seeking better health as that is the path that sustains your hope for this life. I wish you many better days that allows you to realize your dreams.

    1. Dominique says:

      Hi Patricia – Thank you. Writing is never far from my mind. I am having difficulty finding a theme that matches what is in my head. Ugh. But hopefully I will get the update done soon and then be able to develop a writing routine again.

  4. Linda says:

    Your determination is so inspiring to me, Dominique. I too am determined and know we *will* win against this!
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    1. Dominique says:

      Linda – You got that girl. We will win this battle!

  5. Yun Yi says:

    Never give up! So glad to see you blogging again!

    1. Dominique says:

      Yun Yi – Thank you! It is good to be back!

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